My husband and I had been married for 4 years when we were ready to have a baby. We didn’t think anything about it since he came from a family of 10 children and I came from a family of 3. However after a year of trying we knew something was up. Once you are in the trenches of trying month after month it seems you hear the dreaded question from everyone.
“When are you going to have a baby?”
Most of the time I would brush it off with a generic answer. I knew they were asking to make conversation not to make me feel uncomfortable about it. I tried to keep in mind their hearts behind the question. After 4 years of trying to have a baby I learned it’s better to be prepared with an answer then trust my emotions about it. Because let’s be real…your feelings can be a scary thing and hard thing to rely on.
Here are 3 answers I found myself saying:
- “We shall see!”
These are for those who you don’t know well. An acquaintance, a friend of a friend, or that stranger at Target. You don’t have to explain something so personal and this keeps it vague and polite.
- “We’d love kids. Will you pray for us? And how can I pray for you today?”
These are for your family and closer friends. Let them know your desire to grow your family. No need to go in details if you aren’t wanting too. Keep in mind that everyone has a story and don’t be afraid to ask them what they need prayer for. You will be surprise when you open up what others will share with you about what they are going through.
- “Honestly, this is how I feel about it today…”
This is for your squad. Your people. Your husband. When was the last time you opened up about your story? I encourage you to share your struggles and your dreams to those closest to you. They want to support and pray for you. Let them in and build your community.
And above all else tell JESUS. He is there for you through all the ups and downs. I Peter 5:7, “Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” He wants to comfort you during this season of life that can be so lonely. Trust that he has plans for you and your family. “Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and future”, Jeremiah 29:11.